Decide what you want; and don’t budge – Once you decide what you want, don’t settle for something or someone else just because it or they are available. Settling for less than what you truly want is settling for less than you deserve. This is more of a boundary between you and yourself… setting boundaries with ourselves are just as important, if not more important than the boundaries we set with others. It’s important we honor our true desires and work to release any fears or limiting beliefs we have around being in the relationship we want and attracting the person we desire to be with.
Don’t give your energy to red flags – This tip is emphasis on the ‘don’t budge’ part of the first tip… When you are aware that something or someone doesn’t meet the standards you set for yourself, stop giving your energy to that person or thing. Your energy is incredibly precious and valuable… even if the people around you won’t recognize it, it’s important you still honor your standards with yourself and be mindful of who and what your energy is spent on.
Remember that self love comes first – Without a deep inner connection to ourselves and a true love and appreciation for solitude… we cannot truly appreciate or have a deep loving connection to others. When we don’t truly love ourselves but are dating other people… We’re looking to fill the holes of what we don’t love about ourselves with the love of others. We then look to other people for our source of happiness because we’re not content with being by ourselves. Until we remember that we have all we need within ourselves, and fall in love with ourselves again, it’s extremely hard to be in a healthy relationship that isn’t based off of infatuation and unhealthy obsession.
